Head Vs. Heart: Create Your Own Timeline

Why do our heads and our hearts pull us in opposite directions? The confusion makes us feel uncomfortable, even though we know its time for a change. Ultimately, we are unhappy with the situation we are in.

So why is it so hard to make a decision?

It’s so easy to give advice to friends and recommend what they should do and be supportive in what they decide to do. So why is it so hard to have the same support and optimism regarding our own lives?

I think it’s because we don’t like feeling venerable, like a freshly peeled scab. Sensitive, and left feeling broken and hurt, but we need to go through this process and really feel the consequences of our decision, in order to move on.

Is this decision right or wrong? There is no such thing of what you deciding on doing as being right or wrong. There is only you making the effort to be happy, and recognizing that it’s time for a change. This is the first step.

Our head will make us overthink and overanalyze to the point where we have foreseen every possible outcome. Our hearts will make us empathetic and allow us to think about how our decision, the one that needs to be made for our sanity, will disappoint and effect people that we love. They have envisioned a different future for us, but one that does not fulfill our own wants and dreams.

Society’s pressures make us feel insecure with straying from the conventional way of life. Graduating college, having a successful career, falling in love, getting married, having children, basically “having it all.” But no one can live up to these demanding and “perfect” standards, we are only human, and as humans f”””ing up is innate. This cycle is not only stressful, but it’s a lie. Even if people seem like they have all these things on the surface, they are likely hiding unaccepted taboos deep down, which they only share with few or only in their minds.

Do you want to be a caged animal? Suppressed my society’s pressure and constantly living in your imagination? Or do you want your fantasies and dreams to be a reality? You will notice the more you chase and pursue your interests, the more your life will flourish and the happier you will be. Create your own timeline. A timeline with no forced conventional standards. A timeline as unique as you are, and you will live with no regrets.

Failure. Well, that is bound to happen whether you stay put or you change directions, but it’s YOU actually taking the risk, and flipping that coin that will reveal whether or not you made the “right” choice. Either way, do you want to look back on your life, content with living according to someone else’s standards, or according to your own?

Live Consciously To Become a Better You

Breathe. Listen to your thoughts, but don’t let them overwhelm and control you.  If you set goals, and achieve mini-goals one by one, you’ll be on track to getting where you want to be in no time. Time doesn’t exist to pressure you. It exists to allow you to become who you want to be. In today’s fast-paced world, where multi-tasking has become second nature, we need to take the time to slow down. We need to realize that we have all the time in the world, and we need to enjoy our journey through life.

Managing stress is a struggle for many, but it’s important that we make the effort to heal these stressors in our life. Not only does stress release a harmful steroid called cortisol in your body, but it also shuts down your immune system. This makes you more susceptible to illnesses and affects your sleep and overall health. When you begin to feel overwhelmed, step away and breathe for five minutes. Meditate. Center yourself, regroup, and go back to where you’re needed. When you let stress take over, that’s when your mind becomes cloudy.

Take time to do the things that make you happy and do activities that are important to you. Surround yourself with people who you can share these positive moments with and make memories with them.

Set mini-goals to achieve your larger overall goal. This will make you feel as though you are making your way to where you want to be, and chipping away at what needs to be done in order to be there. This makes the process more enjoyable, and allows you to sleep peacefully at night, knowing that you’ve checked off a lot of your to-do list.

Try not to rush when eating. Living in a society where people eat on the go, or don’t make time for a proper meal is something that we lack culturally in America. Put love, time, and effort into the meals you cook, because when you or your family eats those meals they will be eating that love and energy. Sitting down and taking time to eat is also important, because it allows you to digest the food properly. When you chew your food and eat slowly, you’re more likely to eat less and feel satisfied. You won’t feel tired and sick from overeating, or have indigestion from rushing and not chewing your food properly.

Listen to your body, when it tells you that it’s had enough to eat, stop eating. When it’s thirsty, drink. And when your body needs more nourishment to keep going, eat a small snack or meal.

Taking the time to live consciously and listening to your body and mind will only bring more clarity to your life. Your decisions will bring you closer to your goals, and you will be able to maintain a stress-free life. You will be more aware and less overwhelmed by what life may throw at you, and the best advice I can give is to enjoy what you have now, in this moment.

This moment you can never rewind to, or go back to. Treasure your struggles and treasure your life, however you define it. You will get to where you want to be. If you see yourself there and know it will happen, and make a conscious positive effort to be there, there’s nothing stopping you. Just don’t forget to live in the moment, and cherish the excitement and challenge of reaching your destination in life. Even when you make it to where you want to be, there will still be another step or goal to achieve. There will always be something else. So why rush through it all?

Enjoy your journey, because no one other than you will be able to experience it.