Why do our heads and our hearts pull us in opposite directions? The confusion makes us feel uncomfortable, even though we know its time for a change. Ultimately, we are unhappy with the situation we are in.
So why is it so hard to make a decision?
It’s so easy to give advice to friends and recommend what they should do and be supportive in what they decide to do. So why is it so hard to have the same support and optimism regarding our own lives?
I think it’s because we don’t like feeling venerable, like a freshly peeled scab. Sensitive, and left feeling broken and hurt, but we need to go through this process and really feel the consequences of our decision, in order to move on.
Is this decision right or wrong? There is no such thing of what you deciding on doing as being right or wrong. There is only you making the effort to be happy, and recognizing that it’s time for a change. This is the first step.
Our head will make us overthink and overanalyze to the point where we have foreseen every possible outcome. Our hearts will make us empathetic and allow us to think about how our decision, the one that needs to be made for our sanity, will disappoint and effect people that we love. They have envisioned a different future for us, but one that does not fulfill our own wants and dreams.
Society’s pressures make us feel insecure with straying from the conventional way of life. Graduating college, having a successful career, falling in love, getting married, having children, basically “having it all.” But no one can live up to these demanding and “perfect” standards, we are only human, and as humans f”””ing up is innate. This cycle is not only stressful, but it’s a lie. Even if people seem like they have all these things on the surface, they are likely hiding unaccepted taboos deep down, which they only share with few or only in their minds.
Do you want to be a caged animal? Suppressed my society’s pressure and constantly living in your imagination? Or do you want your fantasies and dreams to be a reality? You will notice the more you chase and pursue your interests, the more your life will flourish and the happier you will be. Create your own timeline. A timeline with no forced conventional standards. A timeline as unique as you are, and you will live with no regrets.
Failure. Well, that is bound to happen whether you stay put or you change directions, but it’s YOU actually taking the risk, and flipping that coin that will reveal whether or not you made the “right” choice. Either way, do you want to look back on your life, content with living according to someone else’s standards, or according to your own?